Do You Live in the Gap?
I recently had the opportunity to speak with Mel Robbins, the creator of the Five Second Rule and author of The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work and Confidence with Everyday Courage. According to Mel, we live our lives inside a gap between what’s happening to us and our reaction to it and that gap is about five seconds long. She believes that by implementing her five second rule, which is simply counting back from five to one and then taking action, we can transform every aspect of our life. The premise is that by counting through the five seconds, in which we usually begin to think and allow excuses to come in, we can close the gap, be in control, and override bad patterns in our mind. She says this enables us to take action and to create positive new habits.
Speaking with Mel got me thinking about why so many of us are stuck. We know what we should do, we say we want to do, and yet, we remain inactive. We live in the gap.
In that gap, we make excuses and don’t take action because we’re afraid. We’re afraid of the unknown. We tell ourselves: “I’ll stay in this crappy job because at least I have a paycheck and security,” or “I’ll stay with my husband because I don’t want to spend the rest of my life alone – he’s better than nothing,” or “I’ll never get the job promotion because I’m not good enough,” and the list of reasons goes on and on and on.
Change is scary, there is no doubt about it. We spend so much time trying to keep things the same, where we’re comfortable. But, the one truth that can be said about life is that change is inevitable. Parents will die, children will grow up and move out, companies will go out of business, spouses will cheat. Holding on to things that keep us stuck or unhappy is a waste of this precious life we’re given.
Yes, the unknown is scary, and yes, a setback may occur, but it is also the place where wonderful, amazing things happen. Just think of the possibilities. You could get the job of your dreams with a higher salary. You might meet someone better suited for you who makes you happy. You may embark on a new journey with tremendous financial rewards. You’ll never know by playing it safe and staying stuck!
Without moving away from the ordinary, we’ll never experience the extraordinary.
So, close your eyes and count – five, four, three, two, one, and then take action. Get out of your head. Eliminate the gap where the negative thoughts and excuses come in and create new habits and patterns!
Listen to my interview with Mel to learn more about the Five Second Rule CLICK HERE