Don’t Wish Away Your Days Waiting for Better Ones
“The trick is to enjoy life. Don’t wish away your days, waiting for better ones ahead.” I recently stumbled upon this quote by Marjorie Pay Hinckley. Marjorie’s words got me to thinking about my life and how I have rushed most of it away, not being fully present or savoring the joy of any moment.
When I was a teenager, I couldn’t wait to “grow up” so I could drink or go to college or get married. When my children were infants and toddlers, I muddled through most days in anticipation of the evening when they would go to sleep or when they would be older and more self-sufficient. When I was the caregiver for my parents, I struggled through those years frazzled and exhausted. When I held job positions that were unfulfilling, I wished for the day that I would find employment that made me happy. Looking back, I can’t recall one period in my life in which I wasn’t looking ahead to something different or “better.”
The sad thing is that it took tremendous loss to wake me up: the loss of my marriage, the deaths of my parents and siblings, my children growing up and moving on with their lives. Now, I strive to live in the present. All those quotes about leaving the past behind and not worrying about the future are so true. When you live in the past or try to anticipate the future, you miss the here and now.
When you are dealing with a challenge, look for the positive and learn from the experience. If you are caring for a sick loved one, treasure every minute because I promise you one day you would give anything to nurse that person again. If your children are driving you crazy, remember that sooner than you will like, they will be moving out and starting their own lives.
Remember that all the seemingly insignificant moments – good and bad – are as Paul Anka said, the times of your life. Enjoy them all!