You’re Amazing Just The Way You Are

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection. ~ Buddah

One recent evening, I was invited to be the keynote presenter for a divorce recovery group. As I was getting ready to go on, the moderator opened the event by playing the Bruno Mars hit, Just the Way You Are. As the song played in the background, she commented to the group that anyone would want to have that song sung to him/her by a loving admirer.

As I looked around the room, some attendees nodded in agreement, but written across the faces of others was a tearful longing for such an expression of love.

I agree that the words are beautiful and that most would desire to be involved with such a devoted partner, however, before we should want to hear those words from an outsider, we should be able to look in the mirror and recite those words to ourself.

Why do we feel the need to look externally for validation? Why can’t we find it within ourself to have a love affair with ourself. We are the one person we can always count on from cradle to grave. Why do we need someone else to tell us we’re beautiful in order to believe it?

If we don’t love ourself, how can we truly love another and participate in a mutually beneficial, healthy relationship? It’s time to stop looking outside and begin a love relationship with yourself. Once you do, one day should you hear those words from another, it will be the icing on the cake and not the cake, and you’ll believe them, own them, and treasure them.

Here’s my challenge to you, write the following words on a piece of paper and tape them on your bathroom mirror. Every morning when you wake up (after brushing your teeth) and every evening before you go to sleep (after brushing your teeth), look directly in the mirror… smile as big as you can… and recite the following:

When I see your face
There’s not a thing that I would change
Cause you’re amazing
Just the way you are.
And when you smile
The whole world stops and stares for awhile
Cause… you’re amazing
Just the way you are.

Say it… hear it… believe it… Cause you’re amazing just the way you are!

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